Tag Archives: Living The Fully Realized Life

Finding Paradise

Paradise as a state of mind. It is a state of consciousness. It is a place we can inhabit anytime we want.

Paradise is a myth (in Milton’s Paradise Lost, in the book of Revelation, where paradise comes to us in the form of a new earth, in the Buddhist notion of satori, where paradise takes the form of an “awakening” or “enlightenment”, in Hinduism, where paradise is known as nirvana or “freedom from suffering”). It becomes a reality when we do the arduous work of removing the habits of mind that keep us from it — and adopt the habits of mind that bring it wholly into our presence.

What are the habits of mind that allow us to experience paradise, and give it to others? I don’t profess to have all the answers, but here are a few of my unsifted thoughts: 


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TFRL: The Planning Phase

Woman at Typewriter

TFRL is an ongoing series about the journey to The Fully Realized Life, and The Planning Phase, the third in a three-part conversation about the role of Visioning, Planning and Doing in living a fully realized life.

Last month, we jumped off our three-part conversation on Visioning, Planning and Doing  with a post on The Doing Phase, when you roll up your sleeves and get the job done. We continued the conversation earlier this month with The Visioning Phase. Today, we conclude the conversation with some tips for turning your vision into a plan.

Most of us are pretty good doers. At any given moment, we may or may not be doing the right thing, but we’re good at staying in motion. Trouble is, without a clear vision and a workable plan, all the doing in the world won’t lead us to the life we really want. To get to that life, we need to proceed with greater intentionality.


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The Doing Phase



Woman Biking

TFRL is an ongoing series about the journey to The Fully Realized Life, and The Doing Phase, the first in a three-part conversation about the role of Visioning, Planning and Doing in creating our fully realized lives.

How’s your post-holiday re-entry going? Still on vacay? Already back at work? I’m back at work and my re-entry’s going well. Usually after a few days off — for example, after any given weekend — I have to work to ramp back up, but this time, after a few days off, I was chomping at the bit to get back to it. I’ve got so many dreams for 2013, and there’s no better way to set about reaching them than to dive right in. Which is what I’ve done. I’ve got a busy year ahead and the thought of all the hard work and possibilities is exhilarating.

What are you planning for 2013? How are you diving in?


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How To New Begin


Women In Snowy Haze


A new beginner is someone who starts off in a new direction. Little kids make great new beginners because they aren’t self-conscious and they aren’t afraid to fail. They throw themselves into whatever they’re doing with fearless abandon. If they’re building a Lego castle, they are building a Lego castle. If they fail, if it all comes crashing down, they sweep up the debris and start again.

The best new beginners are the ones who set off in the direction of their true north. They’re like that little kid with his Lego castle. They put it all on the line. And if they stumble, they pick themselves up… and begin again.  


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All Are Called

I have a movable feast of a conversation going on these days with a changing cast of characters, friends who, one by one — and completely independent of one another — have floated by me their idea that maybe not everyone has a purpose, or calling, in this life. They’re speaking, of course, of purpose in its grand sense, as something lofty that sets us apart from the world that most of us occupy. They’re speaking of calling in the Einsteinean sense, of course, and if that is all that calling is, they are right. Only some of us are called to live such grand lives. 


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